I wish life was like those in the movies like the Big Sleep where Philip and Vivian, polar opposites, fall in love in a matter of days.
I think about meeting someone new and the importance in showing an interest in the other person's interests but I find it disingenuous - to "show" interest suggests misleading someone into making them think they interested you. To "show" and not "be" interested. I also find that "taking" an interest which suggests that the listener must force him/herself into being interested.
Are people so boring that all our dates have to fake liking our interests or that they must force themselves into being interested? Perhaps this is negative thinking is convincing myself that I am not interesting and people go out of their way to amuse me.
Who I'd like to meet is the girl version of Samantha from the movie Her. You know from the first time Samantha is introduced she has a genuine interest in Theodore. Through Samantha's desire to learn about Theodore and her need to understand what makes him human. She doesn't just listen to what Theodore likes, but wants to know why he likes and how it makes him feel. As she learns more about him, she feels more human herself.
Why aren't more people open-minded enough to cast away preconceptions to experience moments anew, vicariously through someone else's experiences? We don't have to experience first hand to feel the moment as if it was our own.
People should no longer "show" or "take" but "volunteer" interest. Volunteer attention, empathy, time. You may find yourself more human than you though, or are you too scared to be more human, to feel more deeply? Don't expect to in love or love as quickly in the movies but maybe the volunteering will become and investment that pays back forever?
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